Questions to ask yourself when possibly being cheated on

“Am I Paranoid?”

“Am I paranoid?” That's a question that Whanganui residents typically ask themselves when suspicious of their partner cheating. It's a totally normal question to ask. I have certainly asked it of myself more than once in my life, particularly during my marriage. I was once a happily married man, but only for a little while, and just at the beginning of the marriage. I thought that I had truly found my soulmate, and that we will be spending the rest of our lives together, through thick and thin. That is, of course, until I realized that she was staying late at work too many times during the week. Of course, sometimes it's normal that a person is required to work overtime, but the fact in my situation was that her income never ended up reflecting her overtime hours. She made a crucial miscalculation when trying to hide her cheating ways from me. This lead to me eventually following her after one of her shifts, and catching her driving to a suburb and meeting up with her lover, a man named Greg. Greg's door was unlocked that day, and I ended up going into the house and walking up the bedroom. What did I find there? You guessed it — I found Greg having sex with my wife. To this day, the image haunts me. However, to this day, I am thankful that I followed her, because I am now single and happily so. My only wish is that you find happiness through this unfortunate cheating phase, in whatever form that suits you best.

Are They Cheating?

Yes, this is the big question in this case, and it's almost always impossible to answer initially. Only time and some investigative efforts on your part can uncover a cheater's true nature. Be patient, look out for the signs, and eventually the answer will be clear as day. I hope the answer is ‘no', but it may very well be ‘yes'. Either way, you owe it to yourself to find out.

How Are They Behaving?

If a person's behavior is different for a prolonged period of time, it could indicate a lot of things. For one, it can mean that they are too stressed out at work, and it's taking a toll on how they treat other people. Or, in special circumstances, your partner might be acting different because a family member or friend is in extremely poor health, and it's all they can think about. Or, of course, their strange behavior might be rooted in the guilt they feel about cheating on you. Whatever the case, look to their behavior as the first sign that they might be cheating on you.

Are They Acting Suspicious? Are They Acting Distant?

If you live with someone, it becomes clear to see when they are acting in suspicious or distant ways. For instance, if they keep excusing themselves to go to the bathroom in order to have hushed phone conversations with someone, that is definitely not a very promising sign. Or, you might reach for your partner's phone one day in order to check the time or weather, and they might totally freak out and tell you off for invading their privacy. While privacy invasion is weird, it's important to keep in mind that cheating on a loved one is even weirder. In any case, look out for suspicious or distant activity as a red flag that might indicate infidelity.